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We only get one life. The sooner you set boundaries and start living life on your terms the sooner you’ll enjoy a fulfilling life of purpose. Let’s dive on!
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Many of us have never truly stopped and asked ourselves about our beliefs or why we do the things we do. Whether it’s tradition, religion, or just how we live life, the career path we choose, the schools or clubs we join. . .
Are we really doing those things because we discovered it on our own for ourselves? Or did we pick it up from our family, friends, and community and just keep going with the flow because that’s what everyone else was doing and how we were raised? As human beings we are creatures of social interaction and any time a member tries to question what the majority does they are often “silenced” in effort to protect the way things are. In today’s video, I’d like to challenge you to look inward and challenge any notions or beliefs you may have held onto about yourself from your childhood. You’re not truly living life if you still carry unaddressed trauma around. It just keeps you stuck living in the past instead of being excited for what the future brings.
In this video we cover reparenting yourself and the 5 steps I used to start my self-healing journey. Heal your trauma. You are the foundation for every and any relationship you’ll ever have. Its important for those of us who have been traumatized by our families to take an active role in our healing journey and seek the help needed to work past the obstacles Our overall wellbeing consists of our mental, emotional, and physical well-being. Let’s talk about how you can start to get all 3 in tune after trauma. Heal your trauma Parenting 101: The Importance of Meeting Your Developing Child’s Emotional & Mental Health Needs1/18/2023 In this video let’s talk about what it REALLY means to be a parent, the vital important roles of the mother, and how a child’s mental health develops in those early stages. Heal your trauma! To purchase a HIS guide and start your self-healing journey use this link: https://www.healingissexylife.com/store/p22/hishealingbasicguide.html  Today’s post is especially for you aspiring female travelers, regardless of your experience safety is ALWAYS top priority! Here are some of my safety measures to ensure I spend my trips enjoying new cultures versus stressing over not becoming a headline.
Lastly, when asked you are ALWAYS with someone (preferably a boyfriend or husband, but a brother or girlfriend may work if you meet a cute guy. Still be careful because you don't know him well yet). You NEVER want to give the impression that you are alone to avoid predators looking to take advantage. You are always in transit or someone (a man) is waiting for you to meet or check in with them soon. If someone is asking for details simply say "I don't want to talk about that right now" to avoid discomfort from probing or them calling bluff. Shoot a quick text or call to someone you know letting them know you're getting in a cab and/or where you're heading. Make it obvious so the cab driver is aware you are in touch with a network looking out for your safety. I’ve created the perfect itinerary for solo female travelers with all the deets on how to plan your day-by-day (time, locations/sites, hotels, transports, airports, outfits to wear, costs, literally everything!) in various countries! Let me take all the stress out of planning your next (or first) big trip by using one of my HIS Travel Guides. You can visit the store by clicking HERE. Using my HIS travel guides you literally just have to follow my easy-to-follow templates, book your trip, pack accordingly and go! You can even make your own adjustments to the itinerary. Traveling the world is definitely something I believe we all should do because it makes us all better, self-aware individuals. The fact we are women and maybe traveling alone shouldn’t scare us from having and experiencing new adventures that can improve our lives! Are there any more safety tips you can offer? Please share them with the community in the comments below! Please travel safely! HEALING IS SEXY: Custom Trip Itinerary by Mel
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Use my literally-done-for-you HIS travel guide to plan your next vacation experience! My guides are are PACKED with daily, easy to follow recommendations for planning your travel activities, your instragammable looks & feed, as well as healing prompts/challenges to incorporate personal growth. Traveling has always been one of the best ways to heal, grow, and expand individually and show up as your higher self in the world around you. Let me show you how to do it in luxury! *Price includes taxes Download digital file. Due to digital nature of this content this purchase is non-refundable. Must download file within 30 days from purchase. HEALING IS SEXY: 17 Conversations To Cut The Small Talk
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Tired of boring conversations in dating? Or just unsure of what to say to sound interesting? Use this conversational guide to impress your date with intriguing questions that actually help you get to know each other and move things forward in the right direction. Here's to experiencing more fulfilling conversations in your love life! *Price includes taxes  Hey guys! So as my travels start to pick up I figured I'd share some on why I really love the SHEIN brand for meeting my traveling needs. For starters, their clothing is super cute and super affordable! If you know, you know. Now, while there are times the quality of the material may be lacking (I've received some dresses where one side was longer than the other and I spent waaaay more than I should have taking it to get altered compared to what I paid for the dresses or the material may not be the best) overall I would, and still do continue to shop there. Many people complain about how thin some of the material is . . . I say it's all about your perspective, because honey, to me that just means I can pack more in my carry-on, no checked bags lifestyle! As a tip, if anything is too see-through layer up and wear black undergarments beneath. My first favorite look on my recent trip to Florida is this two piece, super comfortable off-white outfit. The skirt is long and flowy and the bubbly top also added to my chill vibes. On this particular day I had so much fun indulging my inner child in various activities (more on that in my HIS Tampa travel guide). Here's what the outfit looks like, full effect.  My second favorite look was actually this sexy bikini set in yellow for the beach. Super cute! SHEIN has been really great about shipping and lucky for me their packages always arrive earlier than estimated, so this arrived just in time for me to take with me!  Finally, the last of my favorite looks I'd like to share with you is this white, crop top outfit with baggy cargo pants. I looooove these comfortable cargo pants! Perfect for a travel day, which is how I intend to use them in the future!  To see all of the SHEIN looks I went for on my trip to Tampa you can check out my HIS Tampa Travel guide to get inspiration for you next trip and detailed itineraries on where to eat, what to see, and how to plan the perfect vacation!
More travel blogs coming soon! Mel In this video I discuss who your inner child is and how you become a parent to them.
Any questions, please comment below! Shop the guide: https://www.healingissexylife.com/shop.html In this video I break down what EUP is and how it impacts your adulthood and relationships.
Any questions, comment below!  It's human nature (ego/self-preservation) to place blame on everyone else instead of holding ourselves accountable for the experiences we may be having. Instead of setting proper boundaries that honor our authentic feelings and our inner child we blame others for making us feel guilty if we don't keep them happy. What's really happening is we're abandoning ourselves when we don't hold ourselves accountable for enforcing our boundaries. Emotionally unavailable parenting isn't just something our parents may have done to us. We may be doing the same parenting to ourselves and our inner child. Who Is Your Inner Child? Your inner child is the younger version of you, your voice, that's always still there experiencing your everyday life in your adult body. Your inner voice and feelings didn't just go away because you "grew up" in your physical body. Often times we still have some emotional and mental growth to do, so it's best to not mistake physical, outward growth with internal growth. What Is Parenting? Parenting is more than just providing yourself or a loved one with basic survival needs. That's only one aspect of parenting responsibilities. True parenting is teaching yourself and your child to feel safe in fostering relationships and how to sustain those connections. We are social creatures. Newborn babies will literally die without social interaction from another source within a certain time frame. At the heart of parenting is teaching ourselves and our children to form healthy relationship bonds with themselves as well as with others. How to Know If You're Abandoning Your Inner Child The fastest way to know without a shadow of a doubt you're self-abandoning is when you lack boundaries and/or you're too afraid to speak up about them. This usually results in a cycle of beating yourself up for not standing up for yourself, guilt-tripping if you semi-stand up for yourself, and just overall all not feeling good about yourself regardless of what you do. When you're not afraid to set boundaries, and more importantly, enforce said boundaries then you feel good about yourself and you allow the other adults to be responsible for their emotions and reactions. You stop carrying the responsibility of worrying about how others will feel or what they will think when you stick to your boundaries. This is quite a liberating feeling! Real quick, here are 3 tips on how to stop abandoning yourself: #1 Heal Healing will always be the foundational basis for everything, because it connects you to your authentic self, which is the source all your future decisions will flow from, including your boundaries! Healing will provide you the clarity you need to set boundaries and enforce them without feeling guilty about it! #2 Set Boundaries Now, this can be super hard for you, especially if you've never set boundaries before and grew up in an environment that conditioned you to be a people-pleaser and have no boundaries. Society has taught you that having boundaries means disappointing the people who "love" you and who you're "supposed" to never disappoint. The reality is boundaries are based on your authentic self and needs and are meant to protect you and your peace of mind. Think about it this way, are you going to be happier in relationships where you can be your authentic self and your boundaries are respected? Or are you going to stay miserable hiding your true feelings and feeling guilty if you don't support people who don't think twice about taking from you without returning the favor? #3 Make Yourself A Priority My final tip on ways to avoid self-abandonment is going to be to stop putting yourself last. It is not noble to treat yourself as an option, because you are teaching others to treat you like an option. The #1 person who should be showing up for you and cheering you on isn't your partner/spouse, your parents, your circle of family, and friends. It's YOU! No matter who else in life that's abandoning you, you gotta be there for yourself regardless. You do this by making your healing a priority so you have the blueprint and future road map to keep yourself a priority. Being a priority isn't selfish at all. It's simply teaching yourself and others that you matter and while you're here on this earth, how you will be treated should they be blessed to be considered a part of your circle. 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