It’s rare a man or woman gets into a relationship for no good reason at all. In other words, we normally seek a relationship FOR A REASON. Often we may be able to provide most of what we may want in one form or another but it’s be nice to share or experience it with another person whom we feel a special connection with.
As you go through this list consider whether you’d want or need a woman like this. Here are 4 top reasons women “don’t need a man” like this.
1 – Be unavailable more times than you’re actually available. Emotionally, mentally, physically but especially emotionally, mentally, and physically because they’re all connected. The #1 most common best way to teach a woman she don’t need you is to just simply not be there. You’re always too busy. You always make excuses for why you don’t have time. You don’t prioritize spending time connecting with her. You always leave it to her to figure out the logistics of the next date or whatever issue you/your relationship is having currently . . . This is the #1 surefire way she’ll learn real quick how much better off she is not relying on you at all for anything rather than relying on you and continually being disappointed and drained from the effort of trying to include you, but still ending up doing it all alone anyway. Who needs or wants to be in a relationship and still feel like they’re doing it alone/single? Doesn’t make sense or give reason to stay in a relationship with someone like that right? Especially if a person can do all that without it costing them as much time, effort/energy, money, or investment if they were just single or with someone who actually WANTED to be present anyway.
Would you want/need a woman who was constantly unavailable? And who treated you as an option?
2 – You are not valued added to her life. You only add stress. You only know how to take from her. You want a woman to be your peace, your nurturer, your supporter, your “ride or die” your “50/50”, your safe space to dump all your emotions and trauma that you’re dealing with, your help when you’re short or having a hard day in life, your mother figure to your child. The list goes on. You’re draining and stressing her and offering very little value if any in return for all you’re asking her to do. This also includes when you’re lack of handling your responsibilities causes her to pick up your slack. You can’t pay your share of the bills, you can’t treat her to nice dates on a fairly consistent basis, you lose your money to additions/bad habits so it jeopardizes the entire household ability to keep lights on, water running, or a roof over heads/car transportation.
Would you want/need a woman who mostly just drained you financially, emotionally, mentally? How badly do you need another stressor or liability in your life?
3 – No matter how much she tries to prove to you she cares about you and she loves you, you take it all for granted. You don’t appreciate it. Nothing she does is ever good enough. You keep finding and highlighting the other things she’s not doing. You keep moving the goal post. You keep cheating and looking for “the grass is greener” in other women. You keep testing her limits and boundaries to see how much she’ll let you get away with to keep you. The list goes on. It’s only when she finally leaves or threatens to that you switch up and play the good guy . . . but it only lasts a couple of weeks before you default back to your status quo. In short, you’re not happy with the man you are/you’re not the man you want to be yet and you’re taking that out on her by projecting your feelings of not being good enough/worthy onto someone who is trying to show love.
How long would you stay with a woman like this? Do you see yourself growing to love or resent her more each day?
4 – Last, but not least men who abuse women or who haven’t healed/learned to regulate their emotions prove they are more trouble and danger than they are worth. Roughly, 85% of domestic violence victims are women (may include children) and the predator is a male. Men who buy into the controlling of women narrative in order for them to establish “masculinity” are also a part of the problem that prevent women from even feeling safe with men at all. It’s a no-brainer, especially for a woman who has experience domestic violence to have serious second thoughts about trusting a man with her safety and well-being if this has been her past experiences. It has literally become a matter of life and death and it’s simply not a risk she feels is worth taking.
Do you look forward to coming home to an abusive partner and/or constantly making up lies to cover it up? Or constantly living in fear of the next moment they’ll snap on you?
I want more men to think twice before speaking on or co-signing the red pill podcast on this topic, especially if you or your boys are contributing factors to any of the 4 reasons listed above that only justify why this type of man is not value added in any relationship.
Men like this are actively part of the “don’t need a man” campaign and you’re on the wrong side of the equation.
I hope this inspires you to be less of this type of person and actively become more of the type of man women DO need, want, and value in intimate relationships.
I want more men to start keeping this in mind and start thinking more from a woman’s perspective so you can start to understand women better. As a man, there are certain things you don’t concern yourself with that women often do.
None of the 4 reasons inspires a value added woman to sacrifice, invest in, commit to staying with a man who treats her like she’s not even a priority to him or like she’s just another option. The only type of woman who allows a man to treat her poorly like this and stays committed to him is a woman who hasn’t learned her value and is still stuck in a trauma bonding cycle that attracts her to men who mistreat or undervalue her gifts.
This means NEITHER you nor her will ever experience a truly healthy relationship together due to it being a trauma bond in the first place.
If men are truly concerned about the independent women who “don’t need a man” and you’re trying to prove that theory wrong, then men need to be willing to consistently show their value in relationships by deliver what WOMEN value in relationships, not what men think women value in relationships.
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