What To Do When He Pulls Away

Most men struggle with talking to women or knowing how to deal with emotional stress well.

This leaves them prone to the influence of bad dating advice from other men and shutting down, rather than communicating to you.

When a guy you’re dating pulls away, I suggest you reach out to him.

First, make sure he’s okay.

If you learn nothing is amiss or hear crickets, get real about understanding the situation while speaking up for yourself respectfully. Only do it once and be prepared to leave it alone afterwards.

Be thankful you've learned he's not one to rely on sooner vs. later.

Whether he has the decency to own his actions or not the experience will be a deposit towards your self-esteem when you hold others accountable for the way they treat you.

While it's true most ghosters will leave you hanging, at the end of the day this isn't about them. It's about you growing and becoming better from the experience.

Regardless of the stage of dating, you’re both going to make mistakes.

Choose to learn from the experience and normalize creating safe spaces to share how you feel when uncomfortable moments arise. Normalize creating that safe space for others as well.

It helps you learn if a future with this date can stand the test of time.

And isn’t that what relationships are about?

At the end of the day you have a choice to make.

​You can choose to leave the situation with more or less enlightenment.