Can you imagine what type of leaders our anger and insecurities can make us?
Toxic leaders such as Adolf Hitler, Joseph Stalin, Genghis Khan, King Leopold II, Mao Zedong, and Idi Amin are examples of what happened.
Google them and you will see nothing but death follows and only pain and suffering have been their legacies.
Is that the kind of legacy you want to leave? Is that even the kind of life you want to live? Being hated and feared by those closest to you? Never able to trust anyone? Always needing to look over your shoulder for fear of when someone is going to retaliate?
That’s a stressful way to live life on a daily basis and it’s not good for any human being, especially when you add having so much power to the mix as those toxic leaders had.
When it comes to men and dating your leadership (or lack thereof) becomes evident right away. If you have unresolved anger, trauma, and insecurities they will no doubt dictate the type of leader you become.
Your first instinct will always be self-preservation, even in a relationship setting where putting another’s best interest before your own is required.
You will not be capable of truly loving another because you haven’t loved yourself enough first to heal what ails you.
You will always believe the other person is out to hurt you because of the walls your trauma has built up.
Don’t fool yourself and think that you can let someone in and everything will work out fine. It is only a matter of time before an issue arises where your insecurities will trigger you to react in a way that spells the end of a healthy relationship. And the cycle will continue.
The truth is there is no room in a healthy, happy relationship for unresolved trauma.
Men who hope to become good leaders and leave behind a legacy worth honoring need to make their healing a priority.
You can visit my HIS store to purchase the healing guide that best suits your situation to start your healing journey. Don’t waste another hour leaving your anger or trauma-related issues unaddressed.
Only you can do the work to change it and save your relationships from repeatedly ending in disaster.
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