It seems men are still struggling to adjust to the changes within our society that have allowed women to become protectors and providers for themselves.
Many men would argue that this makes them feel useless.
If they don’t feel needed or desired in a relationship, then what’s the point?
While it’s true most men have an innate need to protect, provide, and be not only needed but desired by their women, I want to suggest to you that those attributes are not the only valuable qualities men bring to the table.
It is very possible for a man to not be the sole provider or protector of his family and still be highly sought after and desired. Here’s how to lead women in today’s society no matter what your status is in life.
1. You MUST Possess Exceptional Character
No woman who understands the true quality of character or healthy relationships is going to ask her man to be perfect. We understand you are human. We welcome your emotional vulnerability and the moments where you may shed a few tears.
Unfortunately, too many men are leading with everything but good character. They’ve brought into the faulty image of materialistic women who only care about how much money they have in their wallets or the fancy cars they’re driving.
It goes without saying that if you lead with materialistic things, you’re going to attract a materialistic woman. One who isn’t going to love you for who you are, nor would she be interested in doing so.
But it is your responsibility to make sure you attract the type of woman you’re seeking. You do this by being mindful of how you start your interactions with women.
2. You MUST Prioritize Your Healing Journey
So many men have been traumatized and our society has only conditioned you to bury your trauma deeper. To seek help means exposing a vulnerable weakness or it’s too expensive.
But one of the biggest reasons for unhealthy, toxic relationships is insecure men. Men who allow their anger and inability to process emotions tear the relationship apart because they haven't dealt with their trauma.
An exceptional leader can’t expect to keep his house in order if he hasn’t already taken care of his own inner house.
Make becoming your best self your priority. If you are carrying pent-up anger or trauma do the work to start healing from that now. Otherwise, it will show up in your relationships and keep you and your partner constantly at odds.
3. Seek to Constantly Become Better At Relationships
Too many men are in love with the idea of being in love, but once they score the woman of their dreams they end up losing her because they didn’t know what to do to maintain the relationship.
Real leaders plan for success and move in a manner that ensures it continues. They have a vision and they know it takes consistent investment into that vision to see it flourish.
If you only see two feet in front of you you’re going to hit a brick wall. Every time. And not know what to do. You’ll react, instead of having a plan of action that shows you’re a leader capable of leading your partner and family.
The only way you can move from being reactive to proactive is if you study relationships and seek to become better at navigating them. You must become a student of love, relationships, and women.
If you do these 3 things you will be well on your way to experiencing more success and happiness in your love life with women!
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