Dating apps no doubt have their cons, but I believe if used properly the good can out weight the bad. For today’s blog, let’s get you set up for success with what to do and what not to do when it comes to setting up your online dating profile.
1 Obviously great photos are a must, but here’s what not to do.
Don’t post pictures of you smoking, drinking/bottles, shirtless, in a crowd or group where you’re hard to distinguish, looking bored (or boring), or old photos of you that are older than 3 years (or that would make someone feel they were cat-fished).
There are usually options that allow you to notify women that you smoke or drink so use those. Smoking can be seen as unattractive and a turn off is a woman is into fitness or healthy living. Every, single one of your photos should clearly depict you and some of your personality.
Photos of you doing something you enjoy from walking your dog to a trip to the beach. Add variety by dressing up nicely as well as casually. Into bikes? Showcase that attire. These are the kind of quality photos that share your personality and can inspire more meaningful conversations.
2 Don’t be negative. At all.
It may be tempting to list out all your “Please don’t do this…” or “Come prepared to be my Queen by checking these boxes”. But just don’t. It’s a major turn-off for any new person to be introduced to you when you’re already trying to mold them into a box of someone they haven’t even had time to consider if they want to be all that for you.
Your job is to showcase your good side and your honest side to allow them to make that determination for themselves that your quality of character will only entertain a certain quality of other characters.
3 Be a conversationalist, but not longwinded.
No long lists or bullet points on what you like or what you’re looking for. Those do not generate quality dates or meaningful conversations. It makes dating more transactional. Be interesting by sharing something fun or unique about yourself or something that you did.
Have you been someplace new or memorable? Do you have a fun story to share? How have you been growing and learning new things?
Share a snippet and invite women to engage by saying “I’d love to share more if this sounds interesting to you.”
If you can incorporate playfulness with a game that’s a plus. You can do so by inviting women to guess something about you or a picture or by starting a light debate on a controversial topic.
For more tips on how to get women to date you read How To Get Women To Date You.
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