Can you imagine what type of leaders our anger and insecurities can make us?
Toxic leaders such as Adolf Hitler, Joseph Stalin, Genghis Khan, King Leopold II, Mao Zedong, and Idi Amin are examples of what happened. Google them and you will see nothing but death follows and only pain and suffering have been their legacies. Is that the kind of legacy you want to leave? Is that even the kind of life you want to live? Being hated and feared by those closest to you? Never able to trust anyone? Always needing to look over your shoulder for fear of when someone is going to retaliate? That’s a stressful way to live life on a daily basis and it’s not good for any human being, especially when you add having so much power to the mix as those toxic leaders had. When it comes to men and dating your leadership (or lack thereof) becomes evident right away. If you have unresolved anger, trauma, and insecurities they will no doubt dictate the type of leader you become. Your first instinct will always be self-preservation, even in a relationship setting where putting another’s best interest before your own is required. You will not be capable of truly loving another because you haven’t loved yourself enough first to heal what ails you. You will always believe the other person is out to hurt you because of the walls your trauma has built up. Don’t fool yourself and think that you can let someone in and everything will work out fine. It is only a matter of time before an issue arises where your insecurities will trigger you to react in a way that spells the end of a healthy relationship. And the cycle will continue. The truth is there is no room in a healthy, happy relationship for unresolved trauma. Men who hope to become good leaders and leave behind a legacy worth honoring need to make their healing a priority. You can visit my HIS store to purchase the healing guide that best suits your situation to start your healing journey. Don’t waste another hour leaving your anger or trauma-related issues unaddressed. Only you can do the work to change it and save your relationships from repeatedly ending in disaster. Interested in having me mentor you more on all things love, dating/relationships, and women? Sign up for my A Lady’s Man Academy dating course to be the first to know when registration opens.
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It seems men are still struggling to adjust to the changes within our society that have allowed women to become protectors and providers for themselves.
Many men would argue that this makes them feel useless. If they don’t feel needed or desired in a relationship, then what’s the point? While it’s true most men have an innate need to protect, provide, and be not only needed but desired by their women, I want to suggest to you that those attributes are not the only valuable qualities men bring to the table. It is very possible for a man to not be the sole provider or protector of his family and still be highly sought after and desired. Here’s how to lead women in today’s society no matter what your status is in life. 1. You MUST Possess Exceptional Character No woman who understands the true quality of character or healthy relationships is going to ask her man to be perfect. We understand you are human. We welcome your emotional vulnerability and the moments where you may shed a few tears. Unfortunately, too many men are leading with everything but good character. They’ve brought into the faulty image of materialistic women who only care about how much money they have in their wallets or the fancy cars they’re driving. It goes without saying that if you lead with materialistic things, you’re going to attract a materialistic woman. One who isn’t going to love you for who you are, nor would she be interested in doing so. But it is your responsibility to make sure you attract the type of woman you’re seeking. You do this by being mindful of how you start your interactions with women. 2. You MUST Prioritize Your Healing Journey So many men have been traumatized and our society has only conditioned you to bury your trauma deeper. To seek help means exposing a vulnerable weakness or it’s too expensive. But one of the biggest reasons for unhealthy, toxic relationships is insecure men. Men who allow their anger and inability to process emotions tear the relationship apart because they haven't dealt with their trauma. An exceptional leader can’t expect to keep his house in order if he hasn’t already taken care of his own inner house. Make becoming your best self your priority. If you are carrying pent-up anger or trauma do the work to start healing from that now. Otherwise, it will show up in your relationships and keep you and your partner constantly at odds. 3. Seek to Constantly Become Better At Relationships Too many men are in love with the idea of being in love, but once they score the woman of their dreams they end up losing her because they didn’t know what to do to maintain the relationship. Real leaders plan for success and move in a manner that ensures it continues. They have a vision and they know it takes consistent investment into that vision to see it flourish. If you only see two feet in front of you you’re going to hit a brick wall. Every time. And not know what to do. You’ll react, instead of having a plan of action that shows you’re a leader capable of leading your partner and family. The only way you can move from being reactive to proactive is if you study relationships and seek to become better at navigating them. You must become a student of love, relationships, and women. If you do these 3 things you will be well on your way to experiencing more success and happiness in your love life with women! Interested in having me mentor you more on all things love, dating/relationships, and women? Sign up for my A Lady’s Man Academy dating course to be the first to know when registration opens. |
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