It's human nature (ego/self-preservation) to place blame on everyone else instead of holding ourselves accountable for the experiences we may be having. Instead of setting proper boundaries that honor our authentic feelings and our inner child we blame others for making us feel guilty if we don't keep them happy. What's really happening is we're abandoning ourselves when we don't hold ourselves accountable for enforcing our boundaries. Emotionally unavailable parenting isn't just something our parents may have done to us. We may be doing the same parenting to ourselves and our inner child. Who Is Your Inner Child? Your inner child is the younger version of you, your voice, that's always still there experiencing your everyday life in your adult body. Your inner voice and feelings didn't just go away because you "grew up" in your physical body. Often times we still have some emotional and mental growth to do, so it's best to not mistake physical, outward growth with internal growth. What Is Parenting? Parenting is more than just providing yourself or a loved one with basic survival needs. That's only one aspect of parenting responsibilities. True parenting is teaching yourself and your child to feel safe in fostering relationships and how to sustain those connections. We are social creatures. Newborn babies will literally die without social interaction from another source within a certain time frame. At the heart of parenting is teaching ourselves and our children to form healthy relationship bonds with themselves as well as with others. How to Know If You're Abandoning Your Inner Child The fastest way to know without a shadow of a doubt you're self-abandoning is when you lack boundaries and/or you're too afraid to speak up about them. This usually results in a cycle of beating yourself up for not standing up for yourself, guilt-tripping if you semi-stand up for yourself, and just overall all not feeling good about yourself regardless of what you do. When you're not afraid to set boundaries, and more importantly, enforce said boundaries then you feel good about yourself and you allow the other adults to be responsible for their emotions and reactions. You stop carrying the responsibility of worrying about how others will feel or what they will think when you stick to your boundaries. This is quite a liberating feeling! Real quick, here are 3 tips on how to stop abandoning yourself: #1 Heal Healing will always be the foundational basis for everything, because it connects you to your authentic self, which is the source all your future decisions will flow from, including your boundaries! Healing will provide you the clarity you need to set boundaries and enforce them without feeling guilty about it! #2 Set Boundaries Now, this can be super hard for you, especially if you've never set boundaries before and grew up in an environment that conditioned you to be a people-pleaser and have no boundaries. Society has taught you that having boundaries means disappointing the people who "love" you and who you're "supposed" to never disappoint. The reality is boundaries are based on your authentic self and needs and are meant to protect you and your peace of mind. Think about it this way, are you going to be happier in relationships where you can be your authentic self and your boundaries are respected? Or are you going to stay miserable hiding your true feelings and feeling guilty if you don't support people who don't think twice about taking from you without returning the favor? #3 Make Yourself A Priority My final tip on ways to avoid self-abandonment is going to be to stop putting yourself last. It is not noble to treat yourself as an option, because you are teaching others to treat you like an option. The #1 person who should be showing up for you and cheering you on isn't your partner/spouse, your parents, your circle of family, and friends. It's YOU! No matter who else in life that's abandoning you, you gotta be there for yourself regardless. You do this by making your healing a priority so you have the blueprint and future road map to keep yourself a priority. Being a priority isn't selfish at all. It's simply teaching yourself and others that you matter and while you're here on this earth, how you will be treated should they be blessed to be considered a part of your circle. SHOP THE GUIDE! Looking for affordable, inexpensive therapy? Look no further than starting your HIS lifestyle with of my guidebook! This is a great start to uncovering your root issues (the why & how to understanding your behavior). If you find yourself unhappy, struggling in relationships, repeating toxic cycles, attracted to narcissistic individuals, the empathetic doormat who everyone depends on but no one is there for you, and so much more these guides will be the start of literally changing your life and/or deepening your self-healing/love journey! Here's to your Sexy! 💋
0 Comments
Our Black community has suffered generational trauma, that unfortunately still remains prevalent in too many of our households to this day. There is no one size fits all scenario or solution. But our healing must begin and it starts with each of us becoming more aware of how our childhood is still showing up in our adult lives. What Is Emotionally Unavailable Parenting (EUP)? First, emotionally unavailable parenting means regardless of whether or not your parents were physically present in the home or in your life, you still didn't connect with them in a deep, meaningful way. This usually happens because our parents were too busy working multiple jobs, taking care of all our siblings, struggling with substance abuse, living too far away, or maybe didn't want to share any part of our lives so they physically abandoned us as well. How & Why It Happens As we already covered, emotionally unavailable parenting happens because our parents are caught up in their own lives and struggles. But it also happens like clockwork because that's how our society has largely conditioned us to operate. We aren't taught how to be actively present parents. We are taught to chase a bag and provide for our families, and we get praised for sacrificing valuable time we could spend at home bonding with our loved ones. We don't get the flexibility to go to our kids' games or school programs. Instead, we're asked to work later to meet the company's deadline or we choose to pick up overtime for more pay. We've normalized sacrificing the time our children need to learn how to form healthy emotional connections. Often seemingly out of necessity and survival mode. But this is costing us big time in the long run as we continue to experience the cycle of broken homes and lives within our community. We've got to break the cycle and right now the only way I see more of us winning is if we come together as a community to support and uplift one another, so we can all win. Both now and in our future generations. Here are 3 quick steps to start repairing the damage done by your parent's emotionally unavailable parenting. #1: Heal Healing isn't a band-aid you slap on and keep pushing yourself through life, ignoring the constant drama or hurt you're experiencing. Healing is taking a pause, getting real with yourself on what's wrong, and making a commitment to yourself to heal the damage. One of the biggest hurdles you will have to overcome is the fact you've been hurt by your parents when you were a defenseless child, with no other means of support. Whether or not your parents meant to scar you is often irrelevant if they still haven't healed their own scars and learned to better connect as a parent. Please consider purchasing a copy of my HIS guide HERE to start your healing journey. #2 Cleanse Your Environments Healing requires change. Like a caterpillar becoming a butterfly, you are literally transforming and evolving into a better you. Often that means the old circle of friends, and even family members will no longer serve you and may even be holding you back by throwing up your past life. Often during your healing process, it's best to go no-contact with your parents so you can fully process the extent of the damage done and once you're in a better position you can decide if you wish to re-establish some form of connection with them. #3 Commit to Being A Parent to Your Inner Child Become the parent you didn't have and needed when you were a child. Healing teaches you to stop looking to external sources that have failed you and to find your true source within. You were born with everything you needed to live a full, happy, and successful life already. You just need help unlocking it, especially if it's been buried beneath a lot of other people's trauma and conditioning. Remember, not all parents are bad people, but not all parents who are good people are great at parenting either. A true sign of a good parent is that you would have learned how to be a good parent to your inner child, which is what we'll talk about in our next blog post! Until next time, here's to your sexy! Mel SHOP THE GUIDE! Looking for affordable, inexpensive therapy? Look no further than starting your HIS lifestyle with of my guidebook! This is a great start to uncovering your root issues (the why & how to understanding your behavior). If you find yourself unhappy, struggling in relationships, repeating toxic cycles, attracted to narcissistic individuals, the empathetic doormat who everyone depends on but no one is there for you, and so much more these guides will be the start of literally changing your life and/or deepening your self-healing/love journey! Here's to your Sexy! 💋 Let’s discuss what we can learn from Tia’s recent divorce filing as well as other couples who may have been together 10+ years. There's a price for any action we don't take, known as opportunity cost. In this video I break down what not healing could be costing you. Don't prolong your healing journey! Here's to your Sexy! Mel Self-Healing is about positioning yourself for the life you want in the future. You can have it all and still not love the life or skin you're in if you're carrying unresolved trauma from your past. We're often told to think about and position ourselves for promotions or retirement. But what about applying that same thinking to the quality of life we desire? Tune in! Here's to your Sexy! 💋 Mel Everyone thinks they can easily identify a placeholder relationship by whether or not your partner is including you in their future or introducing you to their circles. But what if you could still be in a placeholder relationship, without ever knowing it AND your partner did all of the right things like including you in their lives and future? What if after spending years together you finally reached the realization that you were in the relationship with the wrong person? See, the issue with worrying about being someone else’s placeholder is that you’re focused on worrying about not being good enough for them, instead of focusing on whether or not they are the sort of person you actually want to be with. That’s what fear does in any relationship. It causes us to focus on the wrong things, so we’ll always end up with the results we don’t want. In this blog, we’re going to focus on how you can know whether you’re in a placeholder relationship based on your needs and insights versus worrying about whether or not the other person is moving accordingly. #1 Do you know yourself well enough to be confident and happy single? Most people skip over this part because we think it’s normal to just get into relationships and figure things out as we go. Unfortunately, more times than not, that’s a pretty damaging strategy that leaves more people jaded and hurting. If you don’t know yourself and love yourself enough to be a happy, confident, independent single man or woman, then the odds of you succeeding in a relationship are going to be that much more unlikely because the person you’re showing up as isn’t even who you are. Whether you intend to or not you’re sending a representative and that’s not the real you. So there’s no way you’re going to connect with the right person if you haven’t already made the right connections within self first. #2 Do you know your boundaries and speak up for yourself? A big part of weeding out what’s for you and what’s not is going to be the unique boundaries you set in place that works for you. If you aren’t abiding by your boundaries in your love life that’s a clear sign that you’re positioning yourself to be a placeholder in your love life. As a placeholder, anything goes. You’re too afraid to own your voice and speak up when the lines get crossed because you’re again, allowing fear to keep your focus on prioritizing the other person’s needs vs. your own and the boundaries that matter most to you. #3 Are you allowing your unhealed trauma/insecurities to pick your partners? Although we don’t get to choose our childhood environments and have little to no control over our childhood experiences as adults it’s our responsibility to heal our childhood wounds that may be causing us to pick toxic partners. When we carry our childhood trauma around it subconsciously programs us to choose toxic partners who recreate the trauma from our past/childhood. This is the heart of the matter and why it’s so important for more individuals to do the self-healing work before searching for a romantic partner. The chances of you picking right are always going to be slim to none when you’re still moving in a place of insecurities and fear that’s causing you to recreate the same toxic environments from your childhood. There are some of the questions you can ask yourself to learn if you’re subconsciously positioning yourself to play the role of someone else’s placeholder due to things you can control, which is yourself. I don’t believe in playing the victim and leaving the future of our romantic lives up to chance or in the hands of incompetent lovers. Take back control of your love life by getting real with who you are and healing your trauma using one of my HIS guides SHOP THE GUIDES Looking for affordable, inexpensive therapy? Look no further than starting your HIS lifestyle with one of my $27 guidebooks! There are a great start to uncovering your root issues (the why & how to understanding your behavior). If you find yourself unhappy, struggling in relationships, repeating toxic cycles, attracted to narcissistic individuals, the empathetic doormat who everyone depends on but no one is there for you, and so much more these guides will be the start of literally changing your life and/or deepening your self-healing/love journey! Here's to your Sexy! 💋 CURE BAD DATING, PEOPLE CHASING & PLEASING, LOW STANDARDS, & PREMATURE CUT OFFS WORKBOOK
$33.00
No more chasing people who don't appreciate you or trying to prove your worth to those who don't qualify. Learn how to have it all and not prematurely cut off your benefits! Take the next step in becoming your BEST self so you can start to experience happier, healthier relationships & live a fuller life! Download digital file. Due to digital nature of this content this purchase is non-refundable. Must download file within 30 days from purchase. CURE BREAKUP OBSESSION, TOXIC DATING, & DADDY ISSUES WORKBOOK
$33.00
No more obsessing over anyone who wasn't worthy of your love. Uproot the true source of your obsession to attract the higher quality love life you deserve! Take the next step in becoming your BEST self so you can start to experience happier, healthier relationships & live a fuller life! Download digital file. Due to digital nature of this content this purchase is non-refundable. Must download file within 30 days from purchase. According to CDC, more than 60% of adults suffer from childhood trauma they are likely to carry throughout their entire lifetime. Whether they are unaware of the iceberg effects of their underlying trauma or they don’t know where to begin their healing process, unaddressed childhood trauma is usually the culprit that contributes to the (lack of) quality life experiences they may be suffering. In this article, we are going to cover the ways your childhood trauma may be showing up in your adult life and ruining your happiness. Truth #1: Unaddressed Childhood Trauma Is Carried With The Survivor, Remaining Usually Through Their Lifetime This first truth is key because so many people write off or worst, normalize their childhood trauma. They believe that it’s now “a thing of the past” that doesn’t affect their lives now to any significant degree. But nothing could be further from the truth. Our brain and body literally encode our childhood experiences for better or worse into our being. This serves as a learning and coping mechanism meant to help you (as a child) know what feels good, bad, safe, or dangerous. As a child when your body experiences unsafe circumstances, you started to develop coping strategies in the interest of your survival. Some examples are if your parents or caregivers were abusive you started to appease them to lessen the harm done. Even if they did something you knew was wrong as you grew older you wouldn’t say or do anything to object because your body and mind knew raising any objections would be “very bad” for you. This shows up in your adulthood by you normalizing abusive relationships and “fawning” to appease the offender instead of raising any objections. If your parents were emotionally unavailable it’s likely you developed a tendency to please them by proving your worth or by seeking the attention you lacked by misbehaving. This shows up in your adulthood by you going above and beyond to show others you care or feeling that you have to always give more than the other person so they can understand your worth and stay with you. More of us need to realize and dive deep to address the icebergs that started forming during our childhoods that we are still carrying to this day. Your childhood trauma isn’t something that “just happened so long ago” when you were a kid because your brain and body are literally carrying that trauma around inside of you as a defense mechanism. Truth #2: While It’s Unlikely You’ll Ever Get “Rid” of Your Childhood Trauma, You Can Control Your Triggers Better In Time The next truth is that your experiences as a child through being an adolescent, during a time where you had little control over what may have happened to you or your environment, will last your lifetime. The important thing then becomes not just what happened to you, but how are you going to navigate your life in light of it? You can choose to allow the trauma to rob you of a happy and fulfilling life or you can choose to fight back and not allow the trauma to win. Our goal isn’t to “get rid” of the trauma because depending on how long you endure the experience or how traumatic any single event was we can’t truly erase our memories or what I like to refer to as the “trauma mapping” our body and mind created. Our trauma can be wielded as a tool to help us better understand ourselves and become more self-aware of our triggers. It helps us better understand our needs in a relationship in order to feel secure and form healthy connections. While undertaking this healing process may seem scary at first, if you think about your current state and if you want to continue in that current state for the rest of your life, you may come to see that the perceived risks in starting sooner vs. waiting until later far outweigh any of your fears. Healing is almost like interest compounding. The sooner you start the faster it adds up and increases your quality of life! Truth #3: You Don’t Have to See A Therapist to Start Your Healing Journey, Although One May Be Helpful If You Can Afford One The final truth we’ll cover is how simple it can be for you to start taking control of your unhealed trauma right now, from the comforts of your home without necessarily inviting others into your privacy. One of the major hindrances to seeking help is the stigma associated with seeking a therapist or the expenses. But you can overcome both by using one of the HIS guides available HERE. Whether you seek a therapist or any other professional you have to realize that it’s on you to accept responsibility for not allowing the coping strategies your body developed to stay your norm. You have to do the work for yourself. Any outside help is only going to be able to provide you with resources and tools, but if you’re not using them it won’t change anything in the end, no matter how much you paid or how consistent you were with keeping your appointments. That’s the one thing I nor any other outside resources can’t give you: the self-motivation to say enough is enough and to do the work for your self-healing. SHOP THE GUIDES! Looking for affordable, inexpensive therapy you can start today from the comforts of home? Look no further than starting your HIS lifestyle with one of my $27 guidebooks! There are a great start to uncovering your root issues (the why & how to understanding your behavior). If you find yourself unhappy, struggling in relationships, repeating toxic cycles, attracted to narcissistic individuals, the empathetic doormat who everyone depends on but no one is there for you, and so much more these guides will be the start of literally changing your life and/or deepening your self-healing/love journey! Here's to your Sexy! 💋 CURE BAD DATING, PEOPLE CHASING & PLEASING, LOW STANDARDS, & PREMATURE CUT OFFS WORKBOOK
$33.00
No more chasing people who don't appreciate you or trying to prove your worth to those who don't qualify. Learn how to have it all and not prematurely cut off your benefits! Take the next step in becoming your BEST self so you can start to experience happier, healthier relationships & live a fuller life! Download digital file. Due to digital nature of this content this purchase is non-refundable. Must download file within 30 days from purchase. CURE BREAKUP OBSESSION, TOXIC DATING, & DADDY ISSUES WORKBOOK
$33.00
No more obsessing over anyone who wasn't worthy of your love. Uproot the true source of your obsession to attract the higher quality love life you deserve! Take the next step in becoming your BEST self so you can start to experience happier, healthier relationships & live a fuller life! Download digital file. Due to digital nature of this content this purchase is non-refundable. Must download file within 30 days from purchase. Let’s talk about getting back out there after you’ve taken some time off the scene to do some inner work. I remember not long ago I felt ready to be open again so I signed up for a dating app and it wasn’t long before I met an attractive teddy bear. He was playful so we got into a friendly debate on gender roles and we had an amazing back and forth because he initiated and reciprocated our conversation through a little game he’d come up with. Unfortunately, it wasn’t long before I suspected he was already in a relationship with someone else when we moved off the dating platform to our phones. My little heart could have been crushed once again, and I was disappointed. But it definitely didn’t rock my world the way it could have had I still left my daddy issues unresolved. I’m sure you’ve heard the horror stories. But don’t allow them to scare you from the chance to meet someone else who’s done the work and is ready. You have to trust the work you’ve done on self to shield you from the bad actors and to guide you as you give love another chance. Dating and love require that you trust the process because if you enter with your insecurities or trust issues you’re really only setting yourself and the future of your love life up for failure. At some point, you have to get past your fears and anxiety and ideally, this will happen before you enter a relationship and project any of that onto the other person. Could I have been mad enough to text something snarky or call him out? Sure. But sending that type of energy out wouldn’t have changed what happened and I didn’t want to give any more time to the situation. Another quick story. Not long after I met another attractive guy. The problem with this one was he seemed too busy with his own life to make any time to get to know me. It took him days to get back sometimes and I had to realize that no matter how genuine and nice of a guy he may be I need someone who has the availability to be consistent. I didn’t need to feel bad for not getting back once he finally did. I just need to let him go by not responding to something I no longer wanted in my life (inconsistent people). End of story. As you can see, doing the inner work on self will certainly change the way you date and I hope as you have more encounters you find confidence, not fear in getting back out there. Yes, it means you have fewer dates most times because it’s a numbers game where I encourage you to prioritize quality over quantity. Save yourself the time and trouble of “taking a chance” on people who aren’t treating you like a priority. Trust your inner voice with the work you’ve been doing and enjoy the experiences of getting out there and finding love. SHOP THE GUIDES! Looking for affordable, inexpensive therapy? Look no further than starting your HIS lifestyle with one of my $27 guidebooks! There are a great start to uncovering your root issues (the why & how to understanding your behavior). If you find yourself unhappy, struggling in relationships, repeating toxic cycles, attracted to narcissistic individuals, the empathetic doormat who everyone depends on but no one is there for you, and so much more these guides will be the start of literally changing your life and/or deepening your self-healing/love journey! Here's to your Sexy! 💋 CURE BAD DATING, PEOPLE CHASING & PLEASING, LOW STANDARDS, & PREMATURE CUT OFFS WORKBOOK
$33.00
No more chasing people who don't appreciate you or trying to prove your worth to those who don't qualify. Learn how to have it all and not prematurely cut off your benefits! Take the next step in becoming your BEST self so you can start to experience happier, healthier relationships & live a fuller life! Download digital file. Due to digital nature of this content this purchase is non-refundable. Must download file within 30 days from purchase. CURE BREAKUP OBSESSION, TOXIC DATING, & DADDY ISSUES WORKBOOK
$33.00
No more obsessing over anyone who wasn't worthy of your love. Uproot the true source of your obsession to attract the higher quality love life you deserve! Take the next step in becoming your BEST self so you can start to experience happier, healthier relationships & live a fuller life! Download digital file. Due to digital nature of this content this purchase is non-refundable. Must download file within 30 days from purchase. While it’s true you are already your own star, today’s blog isn’t about being a star in your own universe…. Well, not exactly. I’m talking about walking the walk and talking the talk. After all, a celebrity isn’t a celebrity solely because they are the star of their own world. They’re famous or adored because others have taken notice and started taking notes. When you become a celebrity others in your life will start to take notice and you may notice you’re having a “celebrity effect” on them. Even strangers will take note, reaching out to you. So how do you achieve the same celebrity effect without necessarily being a famous actor or musician? For starters, you have to be in tune with your authentic self. You have to stop tampering down your true self and molding yourself into the “safe” version society may have groomed you for. Those crazy or “not secure” aspirations you have to do things no one in your circle has seen done before? Be true to that and learn productive ways to pursue those dreams. That’s moving and aligning with who you are so that you’re prepared for…. Consistency. Being known for anything requires consistency. Even if you were a one-hit-wonder, during that frame of time whatever you became known for had to have stuck around long enough to catch on with the masses to spread. Unfortunately, society conditions many of us to consistently deny ourselves our truest desires or living the lifestyles we want with the empty promises of “somedays”. But your happiness and living the life you want aren’t what’s important if you follow that path. It’s not even guaranteed! Instead of being consistent in pursuit of someday living the life you want, I want you to become consistent in living the life you want, today, right now, and building on that for the remainder of your lifetime. Think about it. If you were to spend your lifetime building and living the life you desire for yourself starting today with a lifetime to go your happiness is guaranteed and you won’t have to worry about the regrets of “someday” never happening because you ensured it did on your terms. With consistency, you also become known for at least one thing. Your thing. Whatever that is. It can be as simple as being known as the man or woman who “does it all” or who is living their best life. Like a celebrity, your lifestyle may become idolized by those still stuck in their 9-5 mentalities, envying that you somehow always find time to go on nice trips or to show up so put together. The only difference between you and them is that you made the switch. You don’t allow outside factors to dictate or limit how and what you accomplish in your life, you flip the script and work with what you have to tell your life how it’s going to be. That’s what celebrities do. A final word of caution. Being a celebrity does not mean chasing after the Kardashians or being flashy. I believe I read somewhere, there are close to 800 billionaires. How many of them can you name? Exactly. But they’re still living the good life and are a celebrity in their own right. Being known as a celebrity is really just a by-product of the decisions you make on how you decide to live your lifestyle. So don’t make the mistake of putting the cart before the horse. Don’t fall for the hype where media tries to fool you into losing focus on how much you spend on designer anything, or how many chains you wear. Being a celebrity will always start from the inside out. Yes, be your own star in your universe. But why settle for just your universe when the whole world is waiting to be your playground? SHOP THE GUIDES! Looking for affordable, inexpensive therapy? Look no further than starting your HIS lifestyle with one of my $27 guidebooks! There are a great start to uncovering your root issues (the why & how to understanding your behavior). If you find yourself unhappy, struggling in relationships, repeating toxic cycles, attracted to narcissistic individuals, the empathetic doormat who everyone depends on but no one is there for you, and so much more these guides will be the start of literally changing your life and/or deepening your self-healing/love journey! Here's to your Sexy! 💋 CURE BAD DATING, PEOPLE CHASING & PLEASING, LOW STANDARDS, & PREMATURE CUT OFFS WORKBOOK
$33.00
No more chasing people who don't appreciate you or trying to prove your worth to those who don't qualify. Learn how to have it all and not prematurely cut off your benefits! Take the next step in becoming your BEST self so you can start to experience happier, healthier relationships & live a fuller life! Download digital file. Due to digital nature of this content this purchase is non-refundable. Must download file within 30 days from purchase. CURE BREAKUP OBSESSION, TOXIC DATING, & DADDY ISSUES WORKBOOK
$33.00
No more obsessing over anyone who wasn't worthy of your love. Uproot the true source of your obsession to attract the higher quality love life you deserve! Take the next step in becoming your BEST self so you can start to experience happier, healthier relationships & live a fuller life! Download digital file. Due to digital nature of this content this purchase is non-refundable. Must download file within 30 days from purchase. Fabulous news! Your paycheck doesn’t prevent you from having the lifestyle you want! If anything you just have to get more creative with how you spend it or how you increase it! But either way, the fact remains that your paycheck isn’t what’s holding you back from having the nice home, wearing the nice clothes, or being invited to fancy soirees. It’s your mindset. Your mindset is really the only thing that can keep you from achieving any of the things you say you want to do. Especially in this day and age with social media pretty much allowing any sole individual to build their stage and a following without having to invest a penny. Your mindset has either been propelling your forward towards your goals or hampering your progress. Take a few minutes to evaluate your mental with regards to your current state of life and the future of what you hope for. Ask yourself, “Am I happy with where I’m at in life now?” “Do I feel that achieving the life I really want is doable? Or do I feel it’s too farfetched?” Take note of the feeling in your gut. Did you feel optimistic hope arising? Or was it more a feeling of dread in the pit of your stomach? Don’t be too hard on yourself if it’s the latter because so much of our environment and upbringing for many of us was filled with parents, teachers, or well-wishers looking out for ‘our best interests” when they told us to fall in line and play it safe. In reality, they were just parroting what they’d been told and programmed to do. Stay safe. Blend in. Don’t go too far out of line. It’s a debilitating mentality to adopt and what they don’t often share with you are the regrets they have from following the same advice they gave you. Some of them may not have even thought far enough to the things they’d have liked to do because they just shut it all off from an early age and never even gave themselves room to try. I believe our generation and the ones rising up will be different. We have to be. Now more than ever, it’s become evident that you can create your own multiple streams of income and create your own job security without worrying about an employer firing you on a whim. Everyone isn’t an entrepreneur, so if working for an employer fits in your lifestyle and allows you to accomplish the life you want for yourself then by all means work the 9-5. But don’t let it work you! It doesn’t matter how much you bring in, it’s what you do with it. Because you can have all the money in the world and still be miserable. You may need to spend a season learning how to multiply those dollar bills. You may need to learn to make better spending decisions or investments. Each of those processes starts with your mental and consistent, conscious efforts to build towards your end game every single day. Remember, it’s a process so it’s okay to have moments where you may slip and to take a step back. Dust off and re-engage. Over time your consistent mentality and actions will bring you the results of living the dream lifestyle you want and you'll master the art of telling your money where to go, instead of the other way around! SHOP THE GUIDES! Looking for affordable, inexpensive therapy? Look no further than starting your HIS lifestyle with one of my $27 guidebooks! There are a great start to uncovering your root issues (the why & how to understanding your behavior). If you find yourself unhappy, struggling in relationships, repeating toxic cycles, attracted to narcissistic individuals, the empathetic doormat who everyone depends on but no one is there for you, and so much more these guides will be the start of literally changing your life and/or deepening your self-healing/love journey! Here's to your Sexy! 💋 CURE BAD DATING, PEOPLE CHASING & PLEASING, LOW STANDARDS, & PREMATURE CUT OFFS WORKBOOK
$33.00
No more chasing people who don't appreciate you or trying to prove your worth to those who don't qualify. Learn how to have it all and not prematurely cut off your benefits! Take the next step in becoming your BEST self so you can start to experience happier, healthier relationships & live a fuller life! Download digital file. Due to digital nature of this content this purchase is non-refundable. Must download file within 30 days from purchase. CURE BREAKUP OBSESSION, TOXIC DATING, & DADDY ISSUES WORKBOOK
$33.00
No more obsessing over anyone who wasn't worthy of your love. Uproot the true source of your obsession to attract the higher quality love life you deserve! Take the next step in becoming your BEST self so you can start to experience happier, healthier relationships & live a fuller life! Download digital file. Due to digital nature of this content this purchase is non-refundable. Must download file within 30 days from purchase. |
Copyrighted © Healing Is Sexy. All rights reserved.
Disclosure: This website and email notifications may contain affiliate links. If you use these links to make a purchase, I may earn a small commission. As always, I only recommend products that I truly love and would use myself.